Sounds like she won the fight. I'm having trouble myself dealing with the fact that it seems like we HDs have to really push it to the limit to get appropriate responses from our spouses. They will always "win" the fight otherwise. If we say something is unacceptable we have to mean it. The other day when I confronted my H, he asked me "Do you really think this is some sort of irreconcilable difference" and I told him yes if he won't willingly work towards some constructive change and I meant it. I don't want tobe a bitter, crazy old woman and that is where I would be heading.
You've said in previous posts that you would never leave your relationship because of your kids. If your wife knows this to be the case, I guess she knows she can call the shots. I guess you could tell her that if she doesn't work towards change you'll stay married for the kids sake but you'll just be roommates and you won't have any love or affection to throw her way and once the kids are grown you'll be on your way but let her know that it's her choice.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
