I understand this is difficult. You have to remember that most of us giving you advice have been through it already. We understand your looking for reassurance. Your W knows you better then anyone so she understands you’re looking for reassurance. That’s why she gives you crumbs and you gobble them up. You are so hungry right now you will eat anything she gave you.
We can’t guarantee you reconciliation. We can offer you are opinions on your best chance moving forward. Most of us supporting you have been at least 5 years and have seen hundreds of these play out. You need to make a strong move to change the dynamic of your situation.