So it’s been very quiet this end. H has been very inactive to the point where I’ve had the mediation office call me for an update. I’ve told them speak to H as I have no idea other than he was going to put forward another financial offer after claiming he hadn’t realised we could negotiate.😂 That was a good 4 weeks ago and nobody has heard anything so the mediation office have said he has 7 days to contact them before they review our case. That means they may decide negotiations have failed, Close the case and if H wants his D it will have to be through solicitors again.
I have found that over the last two weeks H has been more helpful and has been offering to walk the dog more and actually paying him some attention. He’s been doing numerous school runs which have been helpful and he’s been paying more attention to the smaller details. Cleaning d’s shoes and doing it with her, noticing the cats need something and just doing it. But I’ve also noticed something else and this has me curious. Do Midlifers try to move bits of themselves back in? What I mean by this is H has a few things that I packed away of his in the garage . He never took them but instead started to give bits to D. One thing being an old teddy from when he was a child. Next he has given d a watch of his and said she can keep it for as long as she wants. It feels like he’s trying to keep a part of himself in the house. I assume this has something to do with their inability to fully let go .
So now let’s see if he contacts the mediation office this week. It will certainly be interesting.
