I need some help figuring this out and didn't want to hijack someone else's thread (like I usually do).
Working through my anger (trying to self-soothe) about the sexual aspect of my R, I have several scenario convos re: differentiating. I get stuck on the thought, "Is this reasonable to expect?".
M sexual background: Variety: missionary, W-on-top, M standing and W laying on her back Activities: Oral- for W to orgasm, on M w/o orgasm
I've made my desires known from the beginning of R, but have been refused or ignored. Examples of what I've asked for: oral to orgasm, rear entry sex (doggie style), experiment with positions, fingering her (penetration), G-spot exploration, and some type of sex every three days.
W is OK with Just Do It once a week. I used to be, but not anymore. It's become an integrity issue for me. If she's not going to be involved and/or enthusiastic, I'm left feeling alone and pathetic. Therefore, frequency is nil.
My question is this. Is requiring involvement and enthusiasm unreasonable in my differtiation convo? Certainly, I could enumerate my specific requests and identify what I & E includes, but if she won't hear this why provide the excuse that she feels pressured?
I'd appreciate your input on this as I'm reaching critical mass.
