What is it going to take you to get to a place to treat W as a friend, let her go, accept and honor her wishy washy wishes, and focus on yourself and your future? She does have some validity for wanting to focus on herself. So give her the space. But you write your own rules for you and do what you want. What did I say? They make rules for Betas, and and break their own rules for Alphas. Look. We are all hear because of stagnant growth issues whether they be emotional financial, spuritual or whatever. When people "go looking to find themselves" it could be legit, or it could be manipulation. Sometimes they change their peers because of a change they are going through. Sometimes they change their peers because of outside influences and orbitors they are looking to chameleon around to gain their acceptance. You will see it in their actions. They might change music. What they read. How they dress. Maybe a new vehicle. Different peers. Sudden weight loss, etc. Watch their actions, watch their influences, their peers, watch what they are watching and reading. We have all heard all the descriptives here of what your W is going through in one form or another. I know you don't want to hear this but? Cold hard truth is people get bored of their partners in monogamous relationships in this day and age, their shared lives, their routines, their predictability, and their dynamics. Too many options out there. Just assume their is always someone else waiting in the wings. ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE DISTANT and breadcrumbing you with short text responses. Not giving you any of their time, etc. Remember you are nobody's plan b. Pay attention to actions. Learn from it, and move on with your life. They will try to set the new "lets be friends and play family, I still want to keep you around just in case norm." While they go explore their new lives, new yoga, new friends, new workout partner, and potentially new romantic interests. People can be addicted to new. Its an endorphin high. Just the way it is Jdevast.So start writing out your goals and committed actions how you want your life to look going forward without her. If you can handle it while being unattached then accept the invites on occasion with the kids. Just keep a cool logical head on your shoulder and observe though.
