I listened to a podcast on limerance. Although I have not confirmed there is an OW, H has all the behavioral characteristics of someone in limerance.

I am fed up and ready to give up. H has not been home all weekend and I have not heard from him since Friday when I left home for work. This gets so old. There is not enough DBing, GALing and 180ing in the world. I really truly admire those who have been able to stand for their marriages for many months and even years. I will keep praying for the strength to stand, but I am so frustrated and tired.

H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9
BD - 11/2019
Married 14 years; Together 20 years