KML - I want closure, which I know is not possible. And, yes, I would love the satisfaction of letting him know that I know he’s a cheater. But, Iike Ginger suspects, I know he’ll turn it on me and gaslight as he always did when confronted.

And sadly, I think my kids do know because they can see how fast it all happened and connect dots.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced