I guess I should have been more clear about handling our son. I will never tell him what his mother did. I was wondering how we handle him while she is living here. She is in the guest room. He hasn’t noticed yet but it is only a matter of time. I think we should talk to him sooner about mom moving out. I don’t want her to say this is a mutual thing because I still want to try to save my family. She gets mad at me for saying that. She says we will always be a family things will just be different. She thinks I’m trying to guilt her into staying and I think she is just trying to avoid any guilty feelings from her actions. His mom wants to leave and I think he should know that. I don’t want to lie to him. Is this selfish of me. I’m not sure to handle this. I really don’t want to have to have this talk with him at all but that is not realistic. He is a sensitive kid and I think this is going to crush him. My W thinks he is resilient and he will be fine. I think she is delusional. Hopefully someone with experience with this will have some sage advise.
