I’m about where you are. I don’t give a crap about my homemaker skills or “new life” right now. What matters most are my kids, my job and preparing for D. I focus on the biggies, laundry, food, bills, the rest is irrelevant. Any spare moment I have is spent with my kids (complete focus) or reading. Always reading. I’m preparing for an ugly D, strategizing, saving money, etc. I’m saving my strength.