The kids should not feel any lack of love from the both of you. Be adults, and do not use the kid against each other. Communication is key here. You both need to come clean. A woman doesnt just go out and cheat on a whim, for the most part. She wasnt getting emotional support from you and he gave it, then it crossed the line and became more. Is it fixable, yes. But it takes both of you committing to each other and get help from counselors for both, and Individual if possible.
