I got the BD on November 4th 2019 about 2 months ago. My W had had an affair with a man at work. We both work there and he was a friend of ours. He has been to my house played video games with my son and me. He has house sat for us as well. Of course during these last 2 months I’ve made all the wrong moves. I’ve begged her to stay, I’ve pressured her I’ve moped around the house and spied on her and got caught snooping in her email and phone and following her gps. I have been doing all the household chores which she complained I never helped with and I have been doing all the schoolwork with our 8 year old son. I have been making her coffee every morning and making the lunches. Basically all the doormat behavior I shouldn’t have been doing. She told me she ended things with him but 2 days ago I found text messages to him expressing their love for each other. I am not sure what my next move should be. Our living situation is complicated. She only works part time and we live in a house that is owned by my parents. She can’t afford to move out on her own. She has agreed not to talk to him outside of work while she is living with me but I know I can’t trust her. I have not told my parents or our boss. I think those things might prevent any future reconciliation. I am trying to get a life and focus on myself but it is more difficult than I thought. Her best friend tells me to move on that she is planning on dating this guy as soon as she moves out. I never thought I would be in this position. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
