The more I pursued, the farther away WAW got. I did it for 6 months before I found DB. I stopped all pursuit about 11 months ago now.
It still took another 6 months after I stopped pursuit for WAW to pause, to stop talking S and D and getting rid of the house - to change her mind just a LITTLE.
You can keep pursuing and push W right away from you. Or you can pause, reassess, and figure out what it is you want out of life.
My advice? Slow down.
Pretend like you are taking life at 1/10th speed.
Get very quiet. Act more, talk way less - think Clint Eastwood. Practice making decisions for yourself. Take care of yourself. Control yourself.
Do these things for yourself - not to have an impact on your W or your MR. Do it in order to work on how patient you can be. To build your strength, for YOU. Not for W.
R chats will do you no good right now. Unless you enjoy pain and suffering for no reason. I kinda think you don't, judging from your posts here.
