Newlywed and in crisis

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Also - a question. When she asks 'when are you going to let me go?' what is it you thinks she means? Does she want you to arrange a divorce for her and take care of all the financial stuff? In which case, I would let her handle all that herself given she wants it, but don't do anything to sabotage her or stand in her way. If she means 'give me space' or 'stop acting like we're a couple' then I think you have to respect that, 100%, from today.

The divorce process is different here in my country. It follows the Islamic ruling where the husband holds a lot of say in terms of breaking of the marriage. Basically, wives cannot request for a divorce unless they have a valid reason (husband is abusive/not fulfilling his obligations, etc). However, there is a rule where wives can ask for a divorce by paying some sort of compensation to the husband (typically they have to return back the dowry).

When W asks "when are you going to let me go?" basically she wants me to give my permission for a divorce to the court.

I love my wife dearly and I hate to see her be miserable in this marriage. However, I still believe in saving this marriage and hence I am not willing to give the permission for a divorce... but when the time comes.. I will let her go.

We are living separately right now so she has all the space she needs. We haven't been contacting with each other. I am just waiting I guess.

I believe that as long as you are married, you wear your ring. Regardless of what the WAS does. I have lots of reasons for this, and will be glad to share them if you are interested.

Thank you Steve, if you can share the reasons that would be great.