Thank you both...I will do some more reading tonight. I always feel so stuck when H asks If I want dinner. He’s cooking up a storm right now (which is a rarity, normally it’s spend spend spend and bring something in) and I know he’s going to ask if I want some. If I say no I feel like he will think I’m just being standoffish if I say yes it’s too close to cake eating ....no? These feel like kindergarten questions. I guess no one said this was easy.
