The thing that makes it so hard is opening up and becoming vulnerable because of hope and then feeling crushed.
It does. That's why R testing is usually not recommended until our partners become more consistent. It's both self-protection and a removal of pressure.
Originally Posted by KristinG
I do feel like she has been giving her *best* and trying so hard.
Remember that feeling of desperation that you just wanted to fix things overnight? That's what she is (possibly) feeling. Trying really really really hard does not fix a broken MR. It's good but not sufficient.
KG you are doing a great job at DB. I think your W sounds like an emotional hot mess and until she gathers her own inner strength she will be that raging unpredictable sea and not know what she wants. The more you can detach and get off that roller coaster, the more you will be able to have a healthy perspective and make decisions for your own happiness. Keep up the PMA, validate, detach *lovingly* (important distinction)... all that good stuff.
