That part about the bacon is cracking me up. My H-- same thing. Now does most of the grocery shopping, cooking, volunteers to help when I'm cooking. Snuggles up on the couch with all four of us for a movie (kids in the middle, though, god forbid we actually touch). And this guy has never ONCE volunteered to fold kid laundry-- it is his most dreaded chore because the clothes so GD small and he doesn't know whose is whose or where things go and gets super frustrated. (Also, if you can't tell, my least favorite chore.) He folded a whole basketful the other day. Sends funny/nice texts to my mom. My H also totally stepped up his acts of service in the middle of all this once he learned it was my primary LL and that has continued throughout.
But who knows. Breadcrumbing, cake eating, guilt, "trying"... I feel like it doesn't do any good to try to understand why he is or isn't acting in a certain way. And I totally trust you-- you are smart and strong and thoughtful. You'll be fine no matter what... but the less you can worry about him and what is going on in his confused head vs. focusing on yourself, the better off you'll be. (Partially this is me talking to myself, so take it all with a giant grain of salt!!)
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
