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[Taz]

Oceangrl,

She has a good job and is able to support herself. She has used the family credit card for limited expenses and typically asks me if its ok. The weird thing is she has not monstered with me and doesn't appear to be in a EA or a PA. Supposedly she doesn't speak badly about me to friends. She does give others including our sons the impression that our split was mutual (not true). People are shocked when I tell them that she left with out a word to me. She still attends church every weekend and is involved in many ministries at the church as well. Our priest reached out to her and had a face to face meeting with her. He was the one who initially suggested MLC to me. He said it was the weirdest conversation he had ever had with a woman who left her husband. She barely spoke and never actually gave him a reason why she left us. She did give my sons a note in their Crhistmas card trying to explain why she left it just basically said. "I was tired of pretending that everything was ok and I felt that your dad did not care about me anymore." the odd thing was she couldn't just tell them this. She even told them not to open the card till she was gone. The whole thing just does not make sense.

I am so confused. I think she is suffering from depression. She seems to be able to function as normal with everyone but me and our college aged sons. This [censored]!

Taz