I can, and have changed the locks. However, he was legally allowed to break in (he didn't) as long as he made go on any damage. In the end, he just copied D13's keys (he didn't tell me). I figured we could keep going round that loop (I change them, he copies them) or I just accept he will come and go as he pleases. It fails the 'take no sh!t' test, but sometimes, I just want a quiet life.
I do get asked quite a lot if my position would change if I was with someone. I'm not sure - I wouldn't want the kids to meet anyone until I was sure and I wouldn't (out of respect) introduce anyone to the kids without telling him first. So, if I was to start bringing someone home, both he and the kids would know about it before hand anyway. At the moment, I've not reached that point yet and any 'private' life I have I keep separate from my home life. Not just relationships, but everything really.
