Grocery shop for you and leave him be. I don’t bother even asking if H’s eaten anymore. Cleaning I would say that if you want to clean his part for you own sake then go ahead. I am still doing my H’s laundry. I definitely do not prioritize it though. I think that if it upsets you to do something for him, then maybe you need to set a boundary. If you can be neutral on a task, then it’s really up to you whether you want to do it or not. Hope this helps.
