Things are more or less the same. W keeps cycling with moods. I feel really bad for our oldest son because he takes the brunt of it. She is always nice and friendly to me except for the fact she shows zero affection.
The potential good news is she seeking answers. The first 6 months post BD she was reading books that were either feminist or about independent lives and divorce. Yesterday I saw the book she was reading "Why we can't sleep". I have no idea if she can't sleep or not since she sleeps in a different room but I remember the experts keep saying that they have trouble sleeping at night. Anyways I looked into the book and the full title is "Why we can't sleep, Women's new midlife crisis"
I can't believe how it feels like a massive weight has been taken off my shoulders. I have been personally cycling with emotions lately, doing everything I shouldn't be doing. Worrying about her, waiting to see what moods she is in, mirroring the mood she is in etc. I guess the weight off my shoulders is that I do believe she is progressing.
The unfortunate thing is the book seems to be about Generation X women that were raised to believe they should have everything but don't feel that way. Talks about debt, media etc. I haven't read it through but I doubt there is any information about psychology and childhood connections. The unconscious meeting the conscious. Based on conversations and other things I know my wife is having past issues bubble to the surface, "Shadow Fragments".
Regardless, I am happy she is reading things that are meant to help her. I may actually buy a copy and read it.
