So I found out who his wife is. She is 13 years younger. They married a few weeks ago which means ex was divorced and remarried in the same year. Here is the best part. She has the same first name as his dad’s mistress that he married! So ex really recreated the same childhood dynamic down to the same naked woman! And it’s not a particularly popular name?!?! So interesting.
Through sleuthing I determined she is the first OW he had and that he was cheating in the marriage with her. Hindsight is 20/20 and I am putting pieces together. Her fb page shows nothing for the last year. She went underground. No pics of her wedding to him. She is always alone with no one else in the pics. Weird. She looks thin, has fake boobs and her hair is fried; it is pretty clear she has an eating disorder. My doctor friend saw that and brought it to my attention based on her hair and look of her body.
Conversations with the kids was ok. Younger son said she is nice. Older son said very little.
I know what this means that he just jumped from one relationship to the next and married his affair partner. I Know they are broken and attracted for that reason. I know he ran to her to feel better.
We shall see how it plays out. Giving it over to God.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
