Through The Storm III

[KristinG]

May,

I'm so glad you're finding validation and practicing on your girls helpful! It is amazing when we actually start listening to those around us and keep our big mouths shut to let someone else get to a solution on their own. If nothing else, your daughter will feel heard and loved.

Performance evals went pretty well. I probably sugar coated a little more than I should, but I definitely got the message across that change must happen for continued employment. I still have one difficult one left, but it's the easier of the three bad ones.

First IC appointment was this morning. WOW, what a difference in finding a skilled therapist makes! I don't know if I had mentioned previously in my thread, but I tried a local counselor that didn't give any feedback/homework/advice. It was terrible. I could get more from talking to my dogs (and most of the time, they don't talk back HA). The counselor I met today was wonderful. She doesn't sugarcoat anything and isn't afraid to call me out on my own faults. e.g. setting a boundary and then bending the line. We have a plan on working through setting boundaries v control which I know is something you have struggled with as well May. I realized in speaking with her today that I am generally very laid back, but when some form of crisis happens in my life I go into "fix-it" mode. My IC pointed out that what I really move into is "Control the situation" mode. Very enlightening and more true than I would like to admit. I hope to learn a lot and really continue in my own self growth on this journey.

Yail, I did indeed tell ww that I needed to stay home and take care of a few things last night. I used your suggestion and offered to meet up for lunch today. She was kind and understanding. Today, she picked up some things from the store that I was needing, went shopping for dinner ingredients, and even has a "few surprises" she also picked up for me when I get to her place after work. All in all, it's been a pretty stellar couple of days. I hope you are still hanging in there May. I am keeping up with your thread daily and you are in my thoughts often.

KG