Through The Storm III

[may22]

Hi KG,

So happy to hear how things are going for you. I have been trying the validation practice with my kids and it is AMAZING. (Of course, my D9 had to tell me directly... she was telling me something she was upset about and I interrupted her with a solution and she was like Mom!! I wanted to tell you how I was feeling! And you're not even listening to me! I was like.... oh. Giant forehead slap. Like how could I not see this and my nine year old had to tell it to me directly... so I listened through her whole thing, validated, asked more questions about how she was feeling, and she came up with the solution herself. I wanted to cry for all the opportunities I've missed to do this the right way with her.)

Hope your performance evals went well. I know that feeling well of dread before giving someone difficult feedback. I think I tend to sugarcoat things too much-- it is really difficult for me (in person) to be as clear as I need to be when behaviors really need to change. Now, I write it all down ahead of time and read it aloud (good and bad) so that I know I spit everything out I needed to say.

How did the IC visit go?

Also, agree with Yail that there is no need to rush anything (which I also know you know)-- this should be at your pace, where you feel comfortable. Don't feel guilty about it.