I really struggle with meeting new people though and them asking me about my marital status. Part of me feels like it's a lie to talk about my H as if everything is fine, but part of me feels like it's just socially less awkward to briefly mention him instead of to avoid the subject altogether. I really struggle with this. I realised how little most people talk about their spouses, but then when the question crops up I don't want to discuss the messy situation with essentially strangers, especially as it is a small world and people find things out easily. Ugh.
Hi dillydaf - I'm not up on all your sit but I wanted to stop in and say that I really relate to this right now. It throws me for a loop and I usually wind up awkwardly muttering something about separated but in the same house. It's so weird.
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...it has been nearly 18 months since BD but looking on here makes me realise that is a pretty short time even if it doesn't feel like it to me! This standing business is not for the faint hearted is it?...
I am also here right now. And I feel the same way. Standing is a difficult thing to do, isn't it? It's not waiting, and it's not giving up, and it's not moving on. It's occasionally looking backward to see if the WAS is taking baby steps forward, with the full understanding and awareness that they may never do so.
It is mentally exhausting - I think that is why GAL is so important to the LBS.
Anyway - thank you for writing that. I was beginning to think myself a fool for feeling the way I do and standing as long as I have. It's nice to know there are still others out there in the same boat.
