My W has told her parents and a couple of other people she is getting a D. Hasn't filed yet, but we are meeting with a mediator tomorrow to start the process. For me, I don't like the idea of being a sitting duck and waiting for her to file to put me on the defensive. If you believe D is just a piece of paper (as I now do), and your spouse seems as dug-in as mine appears to be, then you need to decide what is best for you in your situation.
It's a difficult decision, and I empathize with what you are going through.
