My W had her counselling appointment on Monday and she shared a few things last night with me. I won't go into detail but the therapist suggested that due to the trauma of her past she may struggle with loving, stable relationships. Combined with the feeling of numbness since her dad was diagnosed with cancer (and you can't shut that on and off) she was possible looking for ways to feel things, whether that's by spending money excessively, picking fights, etc....
As she told me the loving, stable relationship part she started crying. ME:" I see that upsets you, can you share why?" W: "Because I was so close to throwing away something good" Me: "I understand, I'm proud of you though for getting some help"
I'll leave it at that. I did my best to listen as much as possible and leave my thoughts out of the conversation. I thanked her for sharing with me and soon after she left to get back to her place.
She's definitely in a better place these days but the process will be long.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
