what DB approaches are right for me?

[Pommy99]

Thank you so much for your support and kindness! These days are hard. But rather than drowning in the sucking hole of discouragement, I am trying so hard to rewire my brain and do things differently. Its such a good question you asked -- why do we hold out for people who show us no love, respect, etc. It's something I've been really thinking about. What an I worth? I think what i do like about so many of the tips here is that it helps us find our self-respect again. I mean, how would my H ever respect me if I don't respect myself? If I am okay with being nothing more than a Plan B, and settling for crumbs of love that get thrown out here and there. I've been doing this exact thing for three years. Which is a little embarrassing

I reflected last night on how my H would feel if our daughter were in this situation; that our daughter was the W (me) and my H had to stand back and watch another man treat his daughter in the way H is treating me. He would be pretty upset, I am sure. He would find the other man’s behaviour unacceptable and would encourage our D to step up and show strength and self-respect, not be treated like a doormat. He would tell her she deserves better. I know I need to be that strong self-respecting person that he would encourage our D to be.