Yail - I don't think he ever meant to hurt me. He was hurting (depression, confusion and looking for someone to blame) and hurt people hurt people. If I had started Db'g earlier, we might have had a chance. Once he'd moved out there really was no coming back.
It's funny, I think he has been DB'g also - he did it naturally though.
- Detach (he spent months demonising me in his head pre BD, that by the time BD happened, I was a terrible person he didn't want anything to do with); - 180 (spending more time with the children and doing activities with them, decorating his flat ** bachelor pad it aint, it is full of pictures of the children, their toys, fairy and butterfly stickers, watching more documentaries, reading self help books, eating right, learning to cook) - GAL (reaching out to friends he'd lost touch with, joining an OLD, going on holidays on his own, going to the gym more, joining local dad's football club) - Going dark/NC - stopped calling me every day (calls the girls instead now) and msgs me. Msgs are short, abrupt and logistical.
And given that, I suspect he is in the same frame of mind as me (and I am stealing from LH here). He knows he was happier M but he is OK being single. He is walking the path that he laid out for himself, and he feels OK with it.
I should have been more vigilante - my H is a sneaky nosy SOB. It's in his nature. It's part of his need to be in control.
May - Docs password protected and now in incognito mode. Thank you for your suggestion.
