What gets me most is how H can show me glimpses of his old self on some days and then, without notice, shift right back into his angry alien mode.
YES!!!! My XW would slip into her old self now and then, it gave me hope that she was trying to fight her way back out past the alien. But over time I saw the "old her" less and less until she completely vanished. It was maybe 3 years post-D before I started seeing glimpses of the old her again. She came back little-by-little, but never completely (at least not yet?) I'd say she's about 50% of her old self now.
Oh my goodness, that is so disheartening. I really miss the old H! I guess that is why this is like grief for me - missing someone who may never be back. So heartbreaking!
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
