There is never a case in which you are served with a lawsuit and don't file a response. Regardless of your plans, plans change. Don't rely on the promises of someone suing you or threatening to do so (a divorce is a lawsuit).
If you don't respond he can take a default and have things awarded in a manner that suits him and not you. Not a smart idea.
The lawyer should be able to help provide you with worksheets on expenses if those things matter. It may be that income disparity, length of marriage, and your ability to support yourself will be the deciding factors in whether you get alimony and how much. Some states use income tables.
Do you have disabilities or reasons you are not employable or require training to become employable/more employable?
Not sure a court awards a rental property to any one person. Try to work at least that out with him. Does he want the property still? Can you afford to rent it on your own (generally have to show debt to income ratios to qualify)?
Treatment of pets differs by state. Progressive states may view as similar to children, others will view as property. Does he want the pets? Don't make issues of things he doesn't even want. He will feel like he gave you something (for which he will expect a quid pro quo) and he may not even care. Just casually ask him some of this without telling him your thoughts if you can.
Also ask about social security. Depending on age, etc. you may be able to retain his as a benefit.
Military benefits?
Is there separate property (inheritance, property before marriage, stocks/bonds)? Will your state take this into account (mine will)?
I think the lawyer meant the court may not rush it to give you time to get a job with benefits.
Lawyers don't bite. Find one you like. Given minor assets and no children, find one that will give you a flat rate you are happy with if possible.
