I have a serious question. Was your W ever normal?
Normal? I think everyone has the potential to be a little crazy. She was very jealous and extremely attached early in our relationship and marriage. After my infidelity 17 years ago she somewhat became less attached. She has said that she doesn't think she ever fully forgave me. She is very smart and graduated salutatorian in her high school. AS far as normal goes this affair has thrown her into trying to be a teenager again. Sooner or later she will realize what she has lost and what she has done. It may be too late by then.
