Am I hurting chances for reconciliation by suggesting this to him?
No, at this point the recon chances are so far down the road that there's not much you can do right now to help or hurt them.
This is the most disheartening part of this nightmare - that the end is so uncertain and, even if there is a possibility of recon, it is likely far away. It helps knowing that things will get a little less intense emotionally though. What gets me most is how H can show me glimpses of his old self on some days and then, without notice, shift right back into his angry alien mode.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
