1st- you can tell your W, feel free to live by your rules of separation! You do your thing and I’ll do mine! Seriously. Stop letting her dictate everything.
And she wants you to show her love by LETTING HER GO!! She’s pretty much spelled it out for you. But you insist on showing it by wanting to solve her problems, hovering over her and being needy and codependent. You still think that’s the way to her heart. It’s what YOU want. But if you really want to love her in the way she is asking. LET HER GO!
