Also , there's no way of me really addressing any of those concerns with her directly.
We are due to come to therapy session on Thursday with our thoughts on trial seperation and tbh I have many questions and concerns and dont know how or whether to raise them.
At the same time this is all very different from the hostility and abuse narrative of 2 months ago, then the getting closer over Xmas, then intimacy of new years eve , followed by declaration of no intimacy and strong boundaries and now idea of a 6 month trial seperation.
I guess one of my questions/ points needs to be what happens if one of these "rules" of the seperation are broken.
Rules are for "plan b" You be the PLAN A. You make your own rules on what works for YOU. I'm not saying blatantly violate her rules, or be spiteful, but do you think she's going to respect you with you following her rules towing you around by the nose? Do that, and you are guaranteed to have a power struggle. Just be indifferent to them. YOUR RULES. YOU LEAD THE RELATIONSHIP AT ALL TIMES OR NOT AT ALL at either of your discretion.
