Just journaling today's interaction

Short shared car journey for work.

She raised writing down our expectations of a trial seperation for therapy session

Stated she would not be becoming involved with anyone else.

That our contact with work, the house the kids was enough right now as she worked on herself and that she had no more to give at the moment.

That she knew how I felt, but she needed actions not words to show love ( how the heck do I show her love by actions if we are not even talking or working on the relationship for 6 months)

That I needed to have faith

Said I that her head saw changes and possibility but her body was telling her why would she go back, what would change.

That she will not get back with me now
She reiterated that it would have to be a new relationship

That I should raise any concerns or hard questions at therapy

That she wasn't planing on some big reveal regarding her decision in 6 months,
That I would know how she felt before.

Throughout this I tried to keep it all to validation or at worst nodding.

Every word seems laced with intangible meaning, can't help right now hanging on each word and interaction.
I know this will change in time, but cripes it's tough.


Bd August 2019 after 16years
S 12
D 6