Pommy: So it is interesting, earlier this year when I brought up that my wife had me low on the priority list her response was “that’s because you are always go to be here.” Similarly her priority list was Work, her Parents, Kids, me. I don’t travel for work. I used to work 6a-6:30pm 5 days a week and 7a-1p on Saturdays. In November of 2014 I made some changes to work more traditional hours and when she went back to work in 2016 she through a lot on my plate so then I also had to make major changes. I began taking the kids to school daily which is at 8:40am. I began getting home closer to 5pm. I began making dinner about 60% of the time and more from there. Now in November she quit her job without anything lined up and she still wants me to make dinners, help out around the house, drive the kids to school and activities. She plays tennis twice a week and is working to change careers because she says that if she doesn’t work things don’t work for our family (she claims that I don’t respect her and she doesn’t have an equal say when she doesn’t work). Like I said, I really wish a third party could witness this. I try to be very self-aware of the things I do and how I’m being “selfish” but I’m just not seeing it.
