Oh, peace, job, DnJ, thank you for your words. As always, I am grateful, I am all ears. It is good to remember that moving forward and hope are not mutually exclusive. I need to hear that again and again in this stage.
Kindly, thank you for checking in on me. Your words helped me feel sane again too. I needed to read this:
Originally Posted by Kindly
I have to remind myself that regardless of any R issues THIS is NOT how you treat anyone let alone your life partner. The difficult thing to do is talk and solve issues...the easy thing to do is blame others and run.
And I feel less alone knowing our timelines are so close.
Originally Posted by cardinal
Your H sounds similar to mine in that he also won’t talk about anything let alone our R/M. (Pls correct me if I have that wrong) [...] Again, I guess with our situations being a month apart we are very close in the things we are thinking and feeling. He asks if I want food, tea, watches tv with me....then emails me beginning stages of S papers.
You are right—mine really doesn't talk much. There are periods of very minimal exchanges (good morning/have a good day/hey) and then there are periods of his offering me a bite of something or sharing a sentence or two about his day/life (GASP!). It's been a long time since he would even be in the same room while I'm watching TV/eating dinner, etc.. There's no good or easy version of this rollercoaster, is there? But yes, we have both made much progress in removing ourselves from it! Small victories, indeed. Hugs back at you!
