Once again I commend you on your ability to see from outside of your own perspective, and to question yourself whether or not you have some improvement or if things are the status quo.
On first read, it appears to me that you both had a significant conversation, as difficult as it may have been. I would hesitate to say that it is "the conversation" (if there even is such a thing - personally I don't believe in Hollywood nonsense that there would be only one) but there appear to be elements of clarity, some forthcoming, and several positive things that were said.
Again, it's hard to tell from words on a screen, and harder still when you aren't "in" the situation fully. My recommendation might be to go back and contrast what you wrote in that post to what you wrote around the BD days and see if you're in a better place.
If I had to guess I might say you are close to piecing, but I wouldn't know, I'm still on the other side of the canyon, on mile 6 of the marathon (I think?).
