A year on and standing

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Hi LH,

At where we are, there's 2 portion to the kids. One is Custody and one is access.

Custody will cover the major decision making for the children while access governs the visitation.

For Access, there are overnight access and overseas access as well. But I am intending to block the overnight and overseas access for her.

For custody wise, it will be joint custody. She is welcomed to visit the kids anytime but I do not think she has the capability or capacity to care for them now. Perhaps until the kids are older and can manage themselves then we'll see.

One funny episode recently was, previously, there was the hitting the dog incident that I mentioned. Then there was this time at my in law place, she was the one who could not stand the dog peeing and pooping everywhere and she herself hit the dog. And my mil was screaming at her after that. Then later, the dog did it again and she asked me to hit the dog but I just ignore it.

Interestingly since then till now, things are rather peaceful and she's getting more conversational with me and talking to me in a more proper and respectful manner. I have arranged counselling for the children and she seems more involved and want to be part of it and had been discussing with me on how we can guide our children in their day to day life and etc.

Although these are welcomed, I am still maintaining my mentality in GAL, exercise and dropping the rope. I would not take any pursuing action or show affection until she steps up and apologize, accept my conditions and work on it. Had a short chat with my MIL the other day. She also echoed my stand that I have to set conditions for her daughter if she is coming back.

Is the above the way to handle? if the fog starts to dismiss abit?