Nothing a WAS says makes sense because they are operating on feelings and emotions, which can change in an instant. That is also why you get so many conflicting bits and pieces of information at such random times.
I know. I was there too. I still am - after 17 months. Yes it [censored], but there isn't anything you can do to help W or fix your MR right now.
No, really, there isn't.
Stop focusing on everything she is saying. Is any of it helping you? Have you been able to link any of it together logically? Does it make any sense?
Step back, pause, figure yourself out. You must have many things that you've always wanted to do. Why not start doing them? You've been handed some time. What do you want to do with that time?
And there is no such thing as a "trial" separation. "Trial" is a word put in there to help the LBS adapt to the reality of the situation. It's just a separation, and when you're separated, it's sort of like practicing to be single/on your own.
That's the reality of it.
Listen to AS and LH. They know what they are talking about. They've both helped me a lot.
