I'm not sure I know what that is, AS. We're in the UK but I will look it up. I am not anti-Christian and find a lot of Christian marriage advice useful (I am religious but not Christian). H is a new-atheist type and would be very put off by anything with even a tiny whiff of God about it.
If this is piecing, then getting divorced would be easier. I genuinely feel that while I'd be very sad to leave my marriage, I would also be fine and have exciting things to look forward to. This way feels very tiring and uncertain. There's been some ease and fun between us these past few days that I have missed. But he is a human being and he won't be able to keep this up forever - and neither will I. I don't know how either of us will respond when the other makes a mistake or seems to be slipping back. I will go with him to his IC next month and we can address some of it there, I hope. She seems to have done wonders with him...
