How do you all handle this? Is detachment and forgiveness something that just gets easier as time passes?
Chris,
At first, my anger helped propel me through a lot of the difficult stuff. My anger made no room fro depression. As strange as it may sound, I'm very thankful for my anger during hardest parts of my separation and divorce. For the most part I channeled the anger for constructive purposes, but I had occasional missteps. For myself, I think time has been the biggest factor that has allowed me to let go of a lot of the anger. However, I was relatively detached after our separation and forgiveness has not been something that I've been actively trying to achieve. I look back at my divorce as something bad that happened in my life and I learned a lot from it, and I intend to do as much as I possibly can to avoid the mistakes I've made in the past. And, there was a lot of good that came from my marriage, particularly my two sons.
