Oh that dreaded muddling and taping. That is my worst.
I haven’t done that In years. Lots of thin layers, lots of sanding, and lots of patience. Ha, patience. Well, we’ve all got better at that.
I’m like you, I am ok at drywall finishing. Screw heads were better than my joints. The inside corner joint being my worst; those darn bubbles under the tape.
Good on you. New walls, doors, plugs and wiring - lots to get your hands busy. And your mind. It is great therapy.
Nice to hear you have a date planned for next week. I can see how nervous you feel, from your post. Relax. She said yes. She wants to spend time with you. Be you.
Originally Posted by bpd
I don't want it to feel awkward. I may write down a bunch of conversation topics beforehand. It's so weird to have to do this with someone you've been with for 20 years.
I totally get that you don’t want it to be awkward. And yeah, dating someone you’ve known for 20 years.
Perhaps this might help.
You and her are not the same people you once were. This new her - you have not known for 20 years.
She is showing some positive signs and is enjoying your company. Keep it light and have a good time. You are getting to know each other - again. One of her big things is if you will accept what she has done. And that is not said, it is lived. Demonstrate it.
Think back to who you were 20 years ago. Who were you? What traits did you display? Something caught her eye back then; something caught her eye again.
Those are some of the 180’s that are spoke of. Those changes you hopefully made for you, have intrigued her and just might be a beacon for her.
Relax and show her and you a good time. No expectations. No relationship talks, this is a date. She may hide again for a while after, she may have stirred feelings that she needs to process.
Do not worry, time will tell. Go slow and see where she is leading.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
