I understand. It sounds like you are right, she is still very wayward. Stay strong.
Remember that detachment means you aren't letting her words or actions control your mood and to not believe anything she says and only half of what she does.
You can do this.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.