You realize it's where she is - not sure what you meant with that statement.
Guilt and remorse for her affair and for deciding to divorce, that's what she has right? So I still say that is a good thing, it means she has a conscience that she wishes to abide by. Detachment means not worrying about her wearing the ring.
I think it's more important to show her that you will be fine than to mention it. Your validation will be stronger if you just respond to her thoughts or feelings.
I get the impression that you are being hard on her, which I understand, but I think you need to consider that her asking about working on it, even though it is little things so far, should be given some consideration. I guess I am confused because it seemed like there was a few times where she was talking to you about patching things up and I don't understand why you haven't given that much of a chance. I haven't reread your sitch lately but I have been following.
She has sent some text this morning saying she will always cherish the good times and that she will never regret our life together.
Others that have been following my stich suggest that she is extremely WW. She has continued to secretly contact and meet the OM for the past 6 months since discovery. One thing everyone has agreed on is that I need to go dark. Well I have somewhat gone dark for the past week and now she wants to file for divorce.
In the past 4 weeks she has gone to his house, spent the weekend out of town partying with her friend, and this past weekend spent the weekend with her friends. (All of this supposedly) She was crying last night about thinking about being away from our son for days at a time. She wants to do split custody where we rotate weekends and I get him every Monday and Tuesday and she gets him on Wednesday and Thursday.
I think its best to just validate and move forward with my life.
