Thanks, I've been taking down and putting up walls to create space. I'm pretty good at everything except mudding and taping, but I try.
As far as the date, it's planned for next week. I am looking forward to it, but also nervous. I don't want it to feel awkward. I may write down a bunch of conversation topics beforehand. It's so weird to have to do this with someone you've been with for 20 years.
The displayable depression / withdrawal from the past month is currently gone. She is way more upbeat / happy, doing a lot of things she hasn't done in a year. We spent Saturday drinking and having fun. She is constantly going out of her way to do nice things for me. It's really nice to see.
She keeps bringing up a variety of things. Not sure if she is trying to make subtle excuses for her actions or not. She has on multiple occasions shared her upbringing and difficulties with father. She comments on things that are pre menopausal. She comments that all our children need is to "feel loved". I worry about my youngest since my wife sleeps with them in their room. Our kids have no idea that something is going on. The only thing my kids think is that Mommy goes through major mood swings.
I saw an instagram post she saved that stated "You are enough, a 1000 times enough". I didn't realize she had self esteem issues. I try to praise her for things she does as much as I can.
