what DB approaches are right for me?

[oceangrl]

My H thinks we can get a divorce and he can still stay in the basement. There is no way I could do that. I heard that a couple on some reality show did that and ended up reconciling, but in my view that would be way too stressful and painful.

Yes, I am learning to find out how to honor myself. I do not think I could do the same thing either. How do you grieve and heal and move forward like that? Yuck. Especially if he started dating or something. So awkward. I think the only way you could do that is if you both had zero feelings for each other (not even anger or sadness). I am definitely not there.