Guilt and shame for what she has done means she has a conscience, P.
If she won't hear your pain then by all means you don't have to entertain her talks. Since you aren't filing for divorce I take it you still have hopes for your marriage.
Your last sentence sounds quite harsh. Do you think that mindset is going to help your or your sitch at all? It seems like a good opportunity to validate and hear her. But if you can't then you can't, I get that.
Why do you think she was trying to prove where she was of she was hellbent on pushing through this divorce? I'm not saying to believe it was not a show, but these actions could mean something positive.
Oh no I eventually validated and she said thank you for listening to me but I realize it’s where she is. She doesn’t mean anything about it other than she has guilt and remorse for what she has done and for deciding to end the marriage. She didn’t wear her wedding ring all weekend and may not going forward. However, I still validated and told her I know this is tough and that I will be fine either way etc....
