Thank you Ready2Change. It's hard living with someone who is always down on themselves, but it's even harder when you love them and they don't take your words as being genuine. When BD happened he mentioned that he had a hard time believing the positive things I tell him because I didn't sound sincere. Of course, over time I learned that he was saying to justify the affair... spouse is a horrible person but the AP gets me, she must be my soulmate.
Another thing I'm having to tackle is his response when the kids get invited to do something and are asking permission. Today our youngest ask to go with a family member to visit their dog. When she asked I responded, "ask your dad to make sure it's okay." His response was, " Why are you asking me? You never did before, why start now? " The thing is, I always make sure the kids ask him too. His usual response is, "I don't make the decisions, ask your mom." So here I am l searching for something to say to him without causing an argument. Help!
