Man I can't get a read on your sitch. Your W is to young for MLC and you haven't been married long enough for resentment. I think it has to be mental illness or OM which makes it tough because one requires empathy and the other requires tough love.
You're are in a tough spot.
Yeah I feel like I keep bouncing around between both empathy and tough love although I've tended to side with empathy. I'm pretty sure it's mental illness and she keeps mentioning depression herself and looking after her mental health. I have a few acquaintances removed from our mutual circle who are in the health field and they also are convinced there is mental illness.
It's also quite possible that it's both and the mental illness was the trigger for an OM (in reality I don't think there is currently an OM but there may have been at the beginning of our sitch - but still never a confirmation of anything).
What I struggle with is why can't she work on herself and still be with me and our son? Why can't we be a family and support her through this? Why does she have to do everything on her own? If she just said listen H I have a lot going on that I'm dealing with but I do hope and want our family to remain intact and I want us to be together I just need time to sort myself out and deal with some things....then this would be much easier. But that's not how things work I guess.
Very difficult.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
